iptables: rework extension loader

iptables: rework extension loader

Now that we wrap xtables_register_match() and xtables_register_target() we do
not need to load the extensions ourselves anymore since there is no need to
keep the library handles for dlclose().

Switch to libxtables own loader by invoking xtables_find_match() and
xtables_find_target() with XTF_TRY_LOAD .

Signed-off-by: Jo-Philipp Wich <jo@mein.io>